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<TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=1 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD><SPAN class=TopStory>Men under pressure</SPAN>
<SPAN class=Subheadline>Who says being a man is a bed of roses? - We're under pressure, men say</SPAN></TD></TR><TR><TD>By DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE all woman writer
Monday, March 19, 2007
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<P class=StoryText align=justify>AS women we tend to focus so much on ourselves and our issues, that we fail to spend time understanding our men, or even giving second thought to the fact that they may have problems too.<P class=StoryText align=justify>Indeed, the mere thought that her man may be undergoing any sort of emotional trauma will lead many a woman to place him in the red zone, among the untouchables who have no place in her life.<TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=5 width=330 align=center border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>
</TD></TR><TR><TD><SPAN class=Description></SPAN></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><P class=StoryText align=justify>But truthbeknownst, men are pressured at work to perform; pressured at home to be the head and the provider; pressured by their peers to have the same social life that they do (this can be from promiscuity, smoking and illegal activities); and they have to look good doing it too.<P class=StoryText align=justify>And psychologist Dr Leachim Semaj says that this begins as early as childhood.
"A lot of the pressure that men face come about as a result of bad parenting," he said. "Parents put more pressure on the girls to perform while the boys are basically left to play and do what they want."<P class=StoryText align=justify>Yet when they grow up, we demand that they be good role models for the kids, be a killer between the sheets, a handyman around the house, take care of the bills, provide a comfortable home for their families ... not to mention never failing to do the the unforgivable - remembering our birthdays, anniversaries and woo us come Valentine's Day and other 'special' days.<TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=5 width=150 align=right border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>
</TD></TR><TR><TD><SPAN class=Description></SPAN></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><P class=StoryText align=justify>For Mark Anthony, a 34-year-old family man living in Montego Bay, the stress comes in all forms. "Sometimes you want to go out and try a thing for yourself, but you find that the woman discourages you because she is looking at it through her eyes and can't see it from yours. She feels that if you do it your way you will fail. And just so there will be peace, you sometimes have to give up your plans and do it her way. This is pressuring because you are not allowed to be a man," he tells all woman.<P class=StoryText align=justify>Added to that letdown is the financial pressures that come about as a result of the man not being able to fully meet the needs of his family.<P class=StoryText align=justify>"A man will go out and steal and kill because he sees his wife and children hungry - not because he wants to do it, but because he loves his family and wants them to be comfortable," he said.
Sexual pressure steps in when the man is not able to fully satisfy his partner and she begins to complain. This can not only drive the woman away, but also drive the man in the arms of another, just to prove that he still has what it takes to satisfy a woman.<P class=StoryText align=justify>"When she say she need servicing, I have to give it to her whether mi tired or not," Jayden Morgan said. "You think I can tell her that mi tired or mi have headache? I just have to get the stamina and please her."
For others like 35-year-old salesman Garnett Powell, pressure comes about from the desire to live up to the modus operandi of his father w
<SPAN class=Subheadline>Who says being a man is a bed of roses? - We're under pressure, men say</SPAN></TD></TR><TR><TD>By DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE all woman writer
Monday, March 19, 2007
</TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>
<P class=StoryText align=justify>AS women we tend to focus so much on ourselves and our issues, that we fail to spend time understanding our men, or even giving second thought to the fact that they may have problems too.<P class=StoryText align=justify>Indeed, the mere thought that her man may be undergoing any sort of emotional trauma will lead many a woman to place him in the red zone, among the untouchables who have no place in her life.<TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=5 width=330 align=center border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>
</TD></TR><TR><TD><SPAN class=Description></SPAN></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><P class=StoryText align=justify>But truthbeknownst, men are pressured at work to perform; pressured at home to be the head and the provider; pressured by their peers to have the same social life that they do (this can be from promiscuity, smoking and illegal activities); and they have to look good doing it too.<P class=StoryText align=justify>And psychologist Dr Leachim Semaj says that this begins as early as childhood."A lot of the pressure that men face come about as a result of bad parenting," he said. "Parents put more pressure on the girls to perform while the boys are basically left to play and do what they want."<P class=StoryText align=justify>Yet when they grow up, we demand that they be good role models for the kids, be a killer between the sheets, a handyman around the house, take care of the bills, provide a comfortable home for their families ... not to mention never failing to do the the unforgivable - remembering our birthdays, anniversaries and woo us come Valentine's Day and other 'special' days.<TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=5 width=150 align=right border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>
</TD></TR><TR><TD><SPAN class=Description></SPAN></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><P class=StoryText align=justify>For Mark Anthony, a 34-year-old family man living in Montego Bay, the stress comes in all forms. "Sometimes you want to go out and try a thing for yourself, but you find that the woman discourages you because she is looking at it through her eyes and can't see it from yours. She feels that if you do it your way you will fail. And just so there will be peace, you sometimes have to give up your plans and do it her way. This is pressuring because you are not allowed to be a man," he tells all woman.<P class=StoryText align=justify>Added to that letdown is the financial pressures that come about as a result of the man not being able to fully meet the needs of his family.<P class=StoryText align=justify>"A man will go out and steal and kill because he sees his wife and children hungry - not because he wants to do it, but because he loves his family and wants them to be comfortable," he said.Sexual pressure steps in when the man is not able to fully satisfy his partner and she begins to complain. This can not only drive the woman away, but also drive the man in the arms of another, just to prove that he still has what it takes to satisfy a woman.<P class=StoryText align=justify>"When she say she need servicing, I have to give it to her whether mi tired or not," Jayden Morgan said. "You think I can tell her that mi tired or mi have headache? I just have to get the stamina and please her."
For others like 35-year-old salesman Garnett Powell, pressure comes about from the desire to live up to the modus operandi of his father w