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8 ways to avoid being just her friend
Nadine Wilson
Monday, June 22, 2009
THE "friend zone" is a place not many persons like to be, but unfortunately some unlucky few find themselves there everytime. It's the territory where the women in your life thinks you are great friends, but not quite good enough to be their man.
So while they have no problem discussing their crush with you, or seeking your advice on the most intimate piece of apparel, or bunking on your couch after they've been dumped, they have never in the past upteenth years of your relationship shown any sign that they intend to take the relationship to the next level. Take heart and notes as we show you how to avoid this recurring phenomenon.
1 Don't become her shrink. Have you found yourself being her personal diary and it is becoming frustrating? Then let her know. Once a lady gets in the habit of telling you about every hot guy she has a crush on, then you will remain in the friend zone. So let her know that while you have her interests at heart, you would like to be considered much more than her pal or change the subject whenever you can!
2 Be a man. Don't be afraid to make a move on her from the onset if you are really interested. If you don't act, she will feel that you are just not interested in her and will reserve you as a friend even while pursuing others or being pursued by others.
3 Go on dates with other girls. Sitting at home pining after her, or dropping your plans so you can accommodate hers all the while will not help in your quest to get out of the dreaded friend zone. Let her know that you have a life outside of her too. So instead of waiting every Saturday night to hear how her date went, why don't you start going on a date for a change? It might just help to make you seem more appealing in her sight.
4 Challenge her. Whenever she is speaking crap, don't be afraid to let her know. Challenge her views instead of agreeing with everything she says. Don't be confrontational or abusive, just allow her to see that you have backbone too. By failing to assure her of this, you run the chance of seeing her walk all over you.
5 Don't be afraid to flirt. If you flirt with her, then she will know you are not friend zone material. So try not to be just "friendly", but also actively show an interest. Make subtle comments that will allow her to see that you consider her to be a potential partner.
6 Initiate conversations about the two of you being a couple. Instead of talking about what shoes fits her and what dress she should consider wearing to which date, spend some time establishing a more intimate relationship. Let her know you want to hook up with her. This can only result in one of two outcomes - she can let you down politely or she might just have the same feelings and you can take it further.
7 Don't seem too desperate to get involved with her. We've all seen the movies; the one where the nerd in school is so desperate to get with the girl of his dreams he ultimately has her running the other way. Not all girls will run, some of them will keep you around as "friends".
8 Don't feel you must always compliment her. Don't feed her ego by complimenting her every single day, it can be tiresome for a girl to hear. If you do so, she might become freaked out by you.
8 ways to avoid being just her friend
Nadine Wilson
Monday, June 22, 2009
THE "friend zone" is a place not many persons like to be, but unfortunately some unlucky few find themselves there everytime. It's the territory where the women in your life thinks you are great friends, but not quite good enough to be their man.
So while they have no problem discussing their crush with you, or seeking your advice on the most intimate piece of apparel, or bunking on your couch after they've been dumped, they have never in the past upteenth years of your relationship shown any sign that they intend to take the relationship to the next level. Take heart and notes as we show you how to avoid this recurring phenomenon.
1 Don't become her shrink. Have you found yourself being her personal diary and it is becoming frustrating? Then let her know. Once a lady gets in the habit of telling you about every hot guy she has a crush on, then you will remain in the friend zone. So let her know that while you have her interests at heart, you would like to be considered much more than her pal or change the subject whenever you can!
2 Be a man. Don't be afraid to make a move on her from the onset if you are really interested. If you don't act, she will feel that you are just not interested in her and will reserve you as a friend even while pursuing others or being pursued by others.
3 Go on dates with other girls. Sitting at home pining after her, or dropping your plans so you can accommodate hers all the while will not help in your quest to get out of the dreaded friend zone. Let her know that you have a life outside of her too. So instead of waiting every Saturday night to hear how her date went, why don't you start going on a date for a change? It might just help to make you seem more appealing in her sight.
4 Challenge her. Whenever she is speaking crap, don't be afraid to let her know. Challenge her views instead of agreeing with everything she says. Don't be confrontational or abusive, just allow her to see that you have backbone too. By failing to assure her of this, you run the chance of seeing her walk all over you.
5 Don't be afraid to flirt. If you flirt with her, then she will know you are not friend zone material. So try not to be just "friendly", but also actively show an interest. Make subtle comments that will allow her to see that you consider her to be a potential partner.
6 Initiate conversations about the two of you being a couple. Instead of talking about what shoes fits her and what dress she should consider wearing to which date, spend some time establishing a more intimate relationship. Let her know you want to hook up with her. This can only result in one of two outcomes - she can let you down politely or she might just have the same feelings and you can take it further.
7 Don't seem too desperate to get involved with her. We've all seen the movies; the one where the nerd in school is so desperate to get with the girl of his dreams he ultimately has her running the other way. Not all girls will run, some of them will keep you around as "friends".
8 Don't feel you must always compliment her. Don't feed her ego by complimenting her every single day, it can be tiresome for a girl to hear. If you do so, she might become freaked out by you.