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Singular Subjects - Investigate them!
Published: Monday | June 22, 2009
The Soloist, Contributor
After all this time, it amazes me that some women are still falling for the wrong men. You know, the type who beat you, give you bun, live off you and, on top of it all, turn out to be dead-beat fathers to the children you bear them.
I got to thinking about how we are quick to investigate and shop around for cars, spas, beauty shops and the best place to get a bargain. We investigate a community before we move into it. We investigate our doctors before we let them treat us. We investigate the day-care centres before we take our children there, and we investigate a helper before we allow her into our homes. Yes, we investigate just about everything and everyone else except the men with whom we share our most precious gift - ourselves.
Is it any wonder that we end up with these serial sperm donors who disappear the minute the pregnancy test is positive? I always love to use the example of the late Diana, Princess of Wales, who also got bun, proving that no woman is immune to men who feel they must take a bite out of every apple on the tree. Therefore, all women who are contemplating a relationship should at least check out the men they are interested in.
Easy to do
It is easy to do. Jamaica is a small place and there will always be somebody who knows somebody who knew your latest 'prospect' when he was a buck-toothed fool who loved to peek at other boys in the shower in prep school. So even if you meet him decades later after braces and a Rhodes scholarship, you can find out whether he's bisexual - if you choose to. And if he is a cop who has all the girls going crazy two months after moving to your quiet corner in Four Paths, Clarendon, check to find out where he was last stationed. There may just be a wife and children back home in Port Antonio, Portland.
As we ponder the lukewarm response Father's Day got yesterday, let us take some of the blame for the many times we turned a blind eye to warning bells that sounded even as the love juices started to flow. As we continue to make it easy for the fathers of our children to leave us to shoulder the responsibility, let us look into our souls and admit our wrongs.
Think about the graduation fees we will have to pay alone. Let us stop pretending that we can father and mother children. Stop denying innocent children their fathers and stop contributing to the production of worthless men. Maybe next year we will have a happy Father's Day!
lifestyle@gleanerjm.com
Published: Monday | June 22, 2009
The Soloist, Contributor
After all this time, it amazes me that some women are still falling for the wrong men. You know, the type who beat you, give you bun, live off you and, on top of it all, turn out to be dead-beat fathers to the children you bear them.
I got to thinking about how we are quick to investigate and shop around for cars, spas, beauty shops and the best place to get a bargain. We investigate a community before we move into it. We investigate our doctors before we let them treat us. We investigate the day-care centres before we take our children there, and we investigate a helper before we allow her into our homes. Yes, we investigate just about everything and everyone else except the men with whom we share our most precious gift - ourselves.
Is it any wonder that we end up with these serial sperm donors who disappear the minute the pregnancy test is positive? I always love to use the example of the late Diana, Princess of Wales, who also got bun, proving that no woman is immune to men who feel they must take a bite out of every apple on the tree. Therefore, all women who are contemplating a relationship should at least check out the men they are interested in.
Easy to do
It is easy to do. Jamaica is a small place and there will always be somebody who knows somebody who knew your latest 'prospect' when he was a buck-toothed fool who loved to peek at other boys in the shower in prep school. So even if you meet him decades later after braces and a Rhodes scholarship, you can find out whether he's bisexual - if you choose to. And if he is a cop who has all the girls going crazy two months after moving to your quiet corner in Four Paths, Clarendon, check to find out where he was last stationed. There may just be a wife and children back home in Port Antonio, Portland.
As we ponder the lukewarm response Father's Day got yesterday, let us take some of the blame for the many times we turned a blind eye to warning bells that sounded even as the love juices started to flow. As we continue to make it easy for the fathers of our children to leave us to shoulder the responsibility, let us look into our souls and admit our wrongs.
Think about the graduation fees we will have to pay alone. Let us stop pretending that we can father and mother children. Stop denying innocent children their fathers and stop contributing to the production of worthless men. Maybe next year we will have a happy Father's Day!
lifestyle@gleanerjm.com
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